• Become the Master of Your Mind – The Power of Meditation
      By Pandit Darsa and  Heather Lilleston
    Can you actually control your mind? Have you ever tried? It’s quite challenging. If you are human, you most likely feel like you’re spinning your wheels to no avail, which can be quite frustrating and self-abusive, especially when you are engrossed in the middle of what feels like a major mental affliction or emotional state. Once you’re absorbed, it can feel like there’s no turning back.

     

    Your mind is the most powerful tool you have. Your thoughts influence your perception, and ultimately, your interpretation of reality.  Allegedly, the average person thinks around 70,000 thoughts a day. That’s a lot, especially if all of the chatter in one’s brain is unproductive or self-destructive.  So you can let your thoughts run wild and control you, or you can choose to take the power back and be the person who is actively, consciously thinking your thoughts.

    This is all very challenging for the average person to do. So, we received guidance from two of our experts, Pandit Dasa and Heather Lilleston, about their theories on what to do with all of the chatter in our minds.

    Pandit: On the Power of Meditation to Control the Mind

    The mind can be compared to a sponge – it absorbs everything it touches. It can also be compared to a hard drive with an unlimited storage capacity.  An unhealthy mind has the tendency to dwell on and magnify negative situations. Once it gets into a negative space, it can take a while before it comes back to the neutral or positive position and it may have drained us of all of our physical and emotional strength.

    Meditation is an exercise for our mind. Every time we try to sit, meditate and focus on our breath, we
    notice the mind wanders off and plans the future or starts to think about the past. Being aware of where our mind is wandering to and then bringing focus back to our breath and the present moment is like doing push-ups for the mind. It is strengthening the muscle of the mind.

    While a short-term meditation practice will help an individual reduce stress and anxiety, a consistent daily practice is recommended.  If we only exercise once a month or less, we won’t experience much benefit. The same is true for meditation or any other practice. A healthy mind will help us see the glass as half full and see the growth potential in difficult situations. As our mind becomes nourished through meditation, it will help us improve our overall physical and emotional health and well-being.

    For someone who is just beginning to meditate, Pandit recommends a daily 5-7 minute meditation practice where one can sit quietly, without any smart devices in close proximity, and focus on one’s ingoing and outgoing breaths. Deep breathing is a simple and powerful way to reduce the tension in our muscles and internal organs. We can also become aware of the different parts of our body and where we might be holding tension. This helps us get in touch with ourselves.

    In essence, we have become experts at maintaining our external bodies, but have neglected the maintenance to the mind. This is likened to watering the leaves, flowers, and fruits of the tree but forgetting to water the root. If we can water the root, then all other parts of our existence will be taken care of.

    Heather: On the Power of Letting Go and the Power of a Daily Mantra

    Heather believes there are two major theories about what to do with all the chatter in our minds.

    One is to let go of the thoughts in the mind, step back, let them carry on and pass through you and not give them all of your energy. In this way, you “control your mind” by dropping back away from it. Like when you are walking down the beach with a group of people, and they are chatting away. You start to hear the crashing waves of the ocean and the wind and then you feel like being quiet. Without saying anything dramatic, you hang back. You let them carry on ahead and you walk a little slower. This is similar to letting go of the thoughts in your mind, that constant dialogue. Letting it continue on through you. So it doesn’t get stuck.

    The other theory is to control the mind through the power of suggestion, the use of mantra or daily affirmations. This requires a different flavor of effort. It can sometimes feel fake or disingenuous because you are literally working to carve out a new pattern in your being.

    Your mind is like a giant campground with numerous hiking trails. If you have been repeating the same statements and stories in your mind over and over again, those thought currents are excavating a specific trail. It becomes clearly marked and its easy to walk again and again. You start to gravitate towards it subconsciously.

    There are other trails that you could walk down, but the less you walk down them, the more overgrown they become, and the less you gravitate towards them. These trails are often trails of confidence, gratitude, forgiveness and contentment. Because we don’t use them often, they get overgrown.

    The practice of repeating a mantra or an affirmation is a conscious way of clearing a certain trail in your mind that you want to be walking down. The more and more you repeat this statement, the sound vibrations of the words and their meanings remove anything that was blocking the trail previously and eventually it becomes the path you are frequenting, almost habitually. It takes the kind of effort that keeps grabbing the reigns and redirecting your mental energy down a path more preferred.

    Both approaches require patience and consistency. Letting your thoughts pass through you can help you get out of the feeling that you are being kicked around by your mind and its constant dialogue.  This can also feel very passive and doesn’t necessarily shift the phrases passing through the mind stream, it just changes your relationship to them. Controlling what the mind is saying by making it say something different (mantra or affirmation) can cultivate new patterns, but for most of us our habitual inner dialogues are so locked in, we need major patience to change our minds patterns of thinking.

    Heather’s suggestion is to practice both at different times and for different reasons. When the thoughts and emotions are extremely loud and overwhelming, practice letting go. When your mind is less agitated or you are in a more settled place but still not at peace, work on repeating a mantra or an affirmation to gently carve out a new groove in your mind. The more you practice the easier it will be to know what to prescribe to yourself at any given time.

  • 4 Ways to Activate Your Intuition and Make More “This Feels Right” Decisions
    September 10, 2018   KARA CUTRUZZULA   

    You can’t quite put your finger on it, but if life were a literal cartoon, little red flags would be popping up everywhere.

    Maybe it’s the hmm you thought after the weird way a first date ended or the feeling you get when you go into work on a Monday, questioning whether you should do this task or that task first. Or, maybe it’s as simple as that thought bubble that arises when you reach a street corner, and part of you says to go left when you always go right.

    All those little signs are your intuition. And boy, does it want you to pay attention.

    Intuition is that sense of knowing what the right answer or decision is before you make it. It’s a deep, internal, visceral feeling. You know your intuition is around when you say things like, “I can’t really explain it, but…” or “It just felt right” or, more likely, “It just felt wrong.”

    Intuition is that sense of knowing what the right answer or decision is before you make it.
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    Intuition can feel like this “woo-woo” thing, but experts back it up as valuable. It’s our past experiences and learning feeding us information in the present. Strong decision making is all about having a mix of intuition and logic.

    “To act on the basis of intuition would mean that you open your mind to your own thoughts and feelings and balance those against the data gained by your senses,” Susan Krauss Whitbourne, Ph.D., writes in Psychology Today.

    Our intuition is always there. It’s that feeling that we should speak up in a meeting or say hi to that person at the party—our intuition knows. But sometimes our fear holds us back from acting on it. Fear that we’ll fail. Fear that we’ll look silly. Fear that we won’t get a second chance.

    I’ve been in many situations that felt like the wrong fit. My intuitive brain would say, Back away! But my rational brain would say, But don’t you really need to do this? And it’s not so bad, right? I’ve learned over the years how to trust myself a tiny bit more—it’s not a perfect system, mind you, but more like an essential redirecting and refocusing back into what fires you up.

    Here’s how to activate your own intuition muscle.

    1. Think: ‘Is This Right For Me?’

    Usually, intuition arises when you’re debating between two options. Should I stay, or should I go? Yes or no? Cheese fries or onion rings? But the real question should be: Is this right for me, or for somebody else?

    This question has saved me a lot of time and energy over the years. Because if I’m waffling over an opportunity and ask myself “Is this right for me or for somebody else?” that shuts down an endless pro-con list and lets a deeper feeling of intuition take over. If you can imagine giving this opportunity to someone else—literally, imagine yourself handing it over—and feeling OK about it, then it’s probably not for you.

    2. ‘YES! or no?’

    This idea was popularized by Derek Sivers, who found himself incapable of making a decision about an upcoming trip. Finally, he set down a strict divide. If the answer to a question isn’t “heck yes, I want to do this!” then it should be an instant “no.”

    If you didn’t respond to the opportunity with an enthusiastic YES! the minute you heard about it, perhaps it’s not the best fit for you right now.
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    This is like taking your intuition for a test drive. Think about something you can’t decide on right now. Maybe it’s attending a bachelorette party or taking on a new hobby. If you didn’t respond to the opportunity with an enthusiastic “YES!” the minute you heard about it, perhaps it’s not the best fit for you right now. Because you know how you feel when something is a “heck yes”—you can’t wait to reply and say “I’M IN!!!!,” and probably reach for your phone to text your friend. You’re that excited. That’s because, intuitively, you know it’s right.

    3. Remember Your ‘Intuition For the Win’ Moments

    Even if you think you’ve been avoiding your intuition, there are likely so many examples when it worked in your favor. Your gut told you to say yes to that concert (where the surprise opening act turned out to be your favorite singer) or that random coffee meeting with someone who ended up getting a big promotion the next year—making it your best networking move ever.

    Anytime you’re debating something and you hear that ‘do it/don’t do it’ voice in your head, write it down.
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    Anytime you’re debating something and you hear that “do it/don’t do it” voice in your head, write it down. Consider this your intuition log, and a few hours or days or weeks later, you can read through it and see your intuition track record.

    4. Check In With Yourself Post-Decision

    One of my friends told me this week that she quit her job after 10 yearscue confetti and streamers

    “How did you know it was right?” I asked her. She said the timing was never going to feel exactly right, but once she made the decision, she felt instantly happy and couldn’t stop smiling. She felt settled with her decision. Her intuition was leading the way.

    To try this out: Make the decision—either for real, or just tell yourself you have—and check in on your reaction. How does your body feel? Your brain? Are you excited in an “OMG-what’s-next?” way or an “OMG-what-did-I-just-do” way? See what your gut is telling you.

    Your intuition is a future compass—and it’s showing you the way.

  • A New Way To Read/Listen To Books Based On Brain Science
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    A New Way To Read/Listen To Books Based On Brain Science

    In 1986, Dr. Sinah Goode and Dr. Richard A. Magill published a study called, “Contextual interference effects in learning three badminton serves.”

    As a reminder, badminton is like a mix between tennis and Ping-Pong with a funny looking feathery rubber thingy you hit.

    In the study, the goal was to test different learning approaches to see which ones created the best performance outcomes.

    • Group 1 practiced in a “block” manner with very little interference. Specifically, the people in group one practiced one serve over and over and over for an entire day. Then on day 2, they practiced a different serve over and over, etc. On day 3, they practiced a third serve all day. Hence, they “blocked” their practice to ensure repetition of the same swing each day. Then they were tested on all three serves.
    • Group 2 practiced in a “serial” manner with mixed interferences. Specifically, the people in group two practiced each of the three swings daily, one at a time. So for a period of time, they would practice swing one, then swing two, then swing three. They repeated this serial practice style for three days and were then tested on all three serves.
    • Group 3 practiced in a “random” manner with high interferences. Specifically, the people in group three were told to practice the three shots in whatever order they wanted for three days. After the three days, they were tested on all three serves.

    Common wisdom suggests that Group 1 would perform the best, since they likely practiced each serve more than the other groups. Indeed, there were less interruptions and there was more repetition.

    Over and over and over. This is how habits are formed and mastery developed, right?

    Actually, not so much.

    Repetition and a lack of interruptions is good for the short run. Indeed, the people in Group 1 had a huge surge of skill development in the beginning of the study, but actually tested the worst when game day came. They plateau’d quickly and bonked when it mattered.

    The true definition of learning is your ability to TRANSFER your learning from one situation or environment to another. This is why so many people fall apart in the big moment. Their practice environment didn’t reflect the realities of a volatile world.

    This is why the public education system often sets people up for failure in the real world. The children’s learning becomes overly systematized and sterile, lacking unanticipated interruptions or unexpected scenarios.

    Education should never be boring and sterile. The brain doesn’t like boring. Flow and boring aren’t generally correlated. Interestingly, boredom is getting a lot of attention as a key to “creativity,” which is totally ridiculous. Boredom is not good for the brain — novelty, challenge, and excitement are fantastic for the brain.

    The reason boredom is getting so much hype is because people are addicted to technology, and thus have become bad at focus. It’s not boredom you want, it’s excited focus.

    The third group tested the best of the three.

    Why?

    Because throughout their practice, their brain learned to adjust itself to the different serves. The people in Group 3 would often practice serve one for a bit then serve three then serve one then two then one then three, etc. Constant adjusting and switching, which is so good for adaptability and transfer of learning.

    When you learn in a highly routine and repetitious way, your brain isn’t forced to continually adjust itself. Instead, you quickly advance but then your brain stops making deep connections. You quickly get bored and the learning is less fun and less intense.

    Almost the opposite of what we’ve been taught about learning is reflective of the science on how the brain learns.

    The following are the key reasons the random practice group performed better in the “test.”

    • Continually shifting environments is key to being able to perform in all environments
    • Interruptions are actually good for learning, because when you come back your brain has to work extra hard to remember what you were doing
    • Scrambling your focus disrupts the melancholy and monotony of routine — the brain thrives on novelty and challenge

    What About Deep Work?

    This doesn’t mean that “deep work” and “deep focus” aren’t essential. Instead, this science challenges us to take a deeper look at what focus, practice, learning, and performance even mean.

    For example, Cal Newport, the person who wrote the book Deep Work isn’t just focused on one thing. He is a university professor who does a lot of research. He is also a blogger and author, which although similar is a totally different skill. He’s also married and has three kids.

    He doesn’t just have ONE THING.

    He is constantly switching from one role to another. He interrupts one project and dives into another. And while working on one project, his subconscious mind is actually mulling over and working out the problems of his other projects. Often, stepping away and taking a break from one thing is the most productive thing you can do.

    When you interrupt what you’re doing and work on something else, your brain becomes more adaptive and flexible.

    When you come back to a project after an interruption, your brain is forced to go deeper into the memory well to retrieve what you were doing. This intensified memory retrieval actually deepens the memory, making it deeper learned and ingrained.

    Hence, although the badminton players who were constantly adjusting took longer for their learning to develop, their long-term learning and high stakes performance were much higher.

    They were not only more fluid in different environments, but they actually had deeper learning with each of the individual serves. Thus, not only was the expertise higher, but they were more adaptive.

    Game over.

    The Problem With “Habit Formation” As A Goal

    “A good shock often helps the brain that has been atrophied by habit.” — Napoleon Hill

    Habits in and of themselves aren’t good for you. Yes, some habits are better than others. But all habits, even the best ones, can lead to atrophy and must eventually be disrupted.

    What got you here won’t get you there.

    The same workout routine, no matter how good, will eventually stop pushing your brain and body.

    The best “habit” you can have is actually to continually be shattering your habits in an upward fashion. The real world isn’t an academic science lab with no interruptions. The real world is filled with uncertainty and changing at an exponential rate.

    Hence, the words of Charles Darwin are actually truer now than ever: It is not the strongest of the species that survives, nor the most intelligent that survives. It is the one that is most adaptable to change.

    Applying These Science-Based Ideas To Reading & Listening To Books

    The scientific term for randomized learning scenarios is “interleaving,” and means to proactively mix up how and what you learn.

    You want to create interruptions in what you’re doing to not only become more fluid in your learning, but to deepen your memory every time you return.

    I decided to apply these concepts to listening to audio books. I usually listen to 1–2 full audio books per week. But my approach has always been to listen to one audio book at a time.

    Once one book was finished, I’d start the next one. Then the next.

    Sometimes, if I really liked a book, I’d listen to it 2–3 times in a row. Often, I go back to books I listened to 1–5 years ago. Every time I go back, it’s a different book.

    But lately I’ve been trying something different. I proactively interrupt each book and switch to a different book. Even mid chapter and even when I’m totally engaged and loving what I’m hearing.

    Rather than listening to one book at a time, I’m now listening to 3 or 4. Every 30–60 minutes, I intentionally interrupt one book and switch to another. This has had an interesting and profound effect on my learning and creativity.

    Here’s why:

    • When you switch books constantly, your brain doesn’t bet bored or even slow down
    • Each new book gives the brain an intense dose of novelty — which keeps it engaged and excited
    • The books begin to blend into each other — thus I have 4 micro concepts and then one over-arching meta concept that emerges (see Chess example down below)
    • Creativity is all about making connections — and by listening to multiple books at once, the ideas from each book begin to cross-pollinate and blend into each other, thus becoming a web of unique connections (idea heaven!)
    • Each time I shift back to a particular book, my brain is forced to remember what the book was about, and the specific concepts being convey ed— which deepens my memory and the impact of each individual book
    • I listen to these books in diverse environments and apply the ideas in different ways — from books I’m writing to conversations with my kids

    If I particularly like a book, or didn’t full grasp it once finished, then it stays in the loop of continually shifting books. Thus repetition can still happen, but in a fluid and adaptive environment. And the mixture of ideas continues to change because the combination and diversity of books is always in flux.

    Is this “shallow” or “deep” work?

    This may seem shallow, but it’s not. It’s incredibly good for the brain, and can be done in a focused and intentional manner. You’re not interrupting yourself with Facebook out of addiction, you’re interrupting one thing with another — both of which are done intentionally. Social Media is rarely done intentionally, but in actuality, is set up to get you scrolling and landing on pages reactively.

    Master chess players often play multiple boards at once — simultaneous exhibition —where they walk from one board to the next to the next. Josh Waitzkin, who was a former chess master describes the experience of playing multiple boards at once as all the boards blending together. Each game is interrupted by next and the memory is forced deeper and deeper down to remember the specifics of each individual board. Yet, holistically, the whole experience of all the boards takes on a form of it’s own. The individual parts become a new whole — and the whole evolves beyond the sum of the parts.

    Interestingly, during the few moments the chess wizard is looking at a single board, their brain is firing potentially 100 or 1,000X more intensely than the single person sitting on the other side of the board. Thus, even though switching continuously, the focus in each individual moment is maximized.

    Furthermore, each time they return to a particular board, they get a “fresh eyes” effect — being able to see things they potentially couldn’t see before. Conversely, when you stare at the same thing for a long enough period of time, you can miss obvious details. Mindfulness requires a continuous and intentional shift in and awareness of context.

    The goal is to become the best thinker possible, and to become creative, imaginative, and innovative. If you’re not becoming more fluid and adaptive, then you’re becoming increasingly irrelevant. The challenges and changes in the world will cripple you.

    I fear for the man whose life is so routinized that he can’t handle all of the shifts happening around him. I fear for the man who has become so specialized that he can’t adapt.

    When you learn how to learn, you can specialize in multiple things at once while becoming increasingly adaptive to the world around you.

    Your ability to transfer your skills from one environment to another is what will separate you in today’s global market-place.

    Finally, it’s important to note that no strategy — no matter how scientifically-based — is ironclad. This strategy is no different. Use it, but don’t over-adapt to it. In a month or two (or 10), going back to one book straight through may feel electric and new.

  • 10 Simple Ways to Make the World a Better Place

    By Samantha Hodder-young volunteer woman caring for the elderly women

    “As one person I cannot change the world, but I can change the world of one person.” ~Paul Shane Spear

     

    I have always wanted to change the world.

    I remember being four years old, sitting glued to the television on Sunday mornings, not watching cartoons, but utterly captivated by World Vision. I cried about the injustices in the world and begged my mother to let me sponsor Maria, the girl with the large, sad eyes who was around my age.

    My mom patiently tried to explain to me that we couldn’t afford to send her money. I couldn’t understand since we seemed to live in luxury compared to Maria.

    Having been raised in a middle-class community of about 800 people in rural Newfoundland, I had never seen a stark divide between the rich and the poor. We all seemed to be the same to my four-year-old eyes.

    My heart broke for Maria, and all of the other children on the show. I vowed to myself that someday, I was going to help people like her.

    Throughout my childhood, I told everyone that I wanted to change the world. Many didn’t take me seriously. They’d say, “One person can’t change anything.”

    Still, I knew I wanted to make a positive difference by helping people, animals, and the environment. I started volunteering in elementary school and became a vegetarian at the age of 13.

    People asked, “Why bother? You know, that cow isn’t going to come back to life because you aren’t going to eat it.” And they very often said, “It won’t make a difference.” I tried to explain that every action counted and that we all had to make small efforts or nothing would ever change.

    As time went on, people around me began to criticize less, and many friends and family members decided to try some of the things I was advocating. Each time I did something to make a positive impact, it left me wanting to do more.

    You may think that you need to be a world leader or a billionaire in order to make a difference. I always believed that being a good person is about small things. It’s about how you treat other people, not how many people you have power over.

    If you’d like to make the world a better place but aren’t sure how to fit it into your busy life, these ideas may help:

    1. Volunteer

    Volunteering doesn’t have to consume all of your free time. You can volunteer as few hours as you would like! You can find an organization within your community, or you can even volunteer online, through websites that will allow you to help for even a few minutes at a time.

    1. Donate blood

    This can be one of the most satisfying ways to make a difference. You can literally save a life with just an hour of your time.

    1. Donate used clothing

    There are so many places and ways you can donate your used clothing. Some organizations even offer pick-up services. Donate them to a homeless shelter, or an organization that sells them to raise funds.

    1. Foster an animal

    This can be such a rewarding experience. If you’re able to part with the foster animals, they leave a hole in your heart, but fostering your next pet helps fill it, and you will be making a difference in the lives of so many animals in need.

    1. Spread the word about various causes in your community

    See an interesting fundraiser that an organization is hosting? Share it on Facebook! See an animal that’s up for adoption? Share it. There are so many ways you can help an organization with just the click of a mouse.

    1. Donate something you made to an organization that can use it

    I make jewelry, hats, scarves, and other crafty things in my free time. I’ve donated many hats and scarves to homeless shelters, and donate jewelry to a cat rescue organization for them to sell or auction to raise funds. You have talents—use them!

    1. Join a bone marrow registry

    It’s incredibly easy to sign up to donate bone marrow, and you never know when you could save a life.

    1. Spread some kindness

    Small acts of kindness can go a long way in making the world a better place. Think about a time when someone did something unexpected for you that brightened your day. Weren’t you a nicer person for the rest of the day because of that?

    I’m willing to bet that anyone who receives an act of kindness passes it on in some way, even if it’s just by being in a better mood, and therefore treating the people around them with more kindness than usual.

    • Send someone a kind message.
    • Give a small gift.
    • Make something for someone.
    • Tell someone how much they mean to you.

    There are so many ways to brighten someone’s day.

    1. Change your diet

    Many people will argue with the validity of this strategy to improve the world; however, what you buy reflects what you value.

    If you don’t want to become a vegetarian, try having one meat-free day per week. If you don’t want to reduce your meat consumption, how about buying some free range meat or eggs? Or, buy organic food products. There are many ways you can change your diet to reflect your values.

    1. Make your purchases support your values

    Every purchase you make supports something. You can either support a large business that exploits people, animals, and the environment, or you can buy items that are local, organic, or fair-trade. It’s hard to change this all at once, especially if you’re used to shopping for bargains, but try changing just a few of your purchases to make them better reflect the things you value.

    These are just a handful of the thousands of ways you can make the world a better place!

    Just remember that every single thing you do makes a difference.

    Don’t ever let anyone—yourself included—discourage you from trying to be a better person and help others.

  • How I Measure Happiness
    Darius Foroux October 3, 2018

    The dialogue about happiness has not changed much for the past 3000 years since ancient Greek and Roman times.

    But people pretend that everything has changed and that more people are unhappy than ever. That’s supposed to be because we’re more connected than ever. You read it all the time. “Technology makes people feel lonely and depressed!”

    I agree that technology itself has changed. But human nature has not. People have been unhappy, lonely, miserable, and sad since the start of modern civilization. We still ask ourselves questions like:

    • Do I like my job?
    • How about my house?
    • Does my partner make me happy?
    • How much money do I need to be happy?

    We’ve been thinking like that for centuries. And if you have a similar thinking process, I can tell you that it’s wrong. Conventional thinking about happiness implies that other things or people make us happy. Have you ever thought about that?

    Why is it that we believe something always has to make us happy? I think that’s the biggest problem with happiness. Why do we keep associating happiness with external things like career, love, and money?

    When Are You Happy?

    When you have a job that you love? A good relationship with your partner? A bunch of money? But what about when you get bored with your job? Or when your relationship becomes impossible to bear? Or when your money never seems enough?

    I’ve written about how I pursue usefulness instead of happiness. And that when you make yourself useful, you feel happy. A lot of people resonated with that idea because it puts [us] in the driver’s seat. But that raised an important question.

    “How do I know I’m happy?”

    It’s a question you can only ask when you think about this concept on a deeper level. You see, most of us never think about measuring happiness. Or, we simply assume we know how to do it.

    Yes, we can define our career, money, relationship, and health goals—and we make those things measurable. And yet, we don’t measure the one thing that makes all those things worth it: Our own happiness.

    Never Rely On Externals For Your Happiness

    That’s my only measure for happiness. I ask myself: “Am I relying on something or someone to make me happy?” I want my answer to be “no.”

    Let me explain: I love my work, family, [etc.,], but I don’t rely on them to be happy. I just am happy.Life is too short to go through personal suffering. We can’t put our own happiness in other people’s hands.

    Happiness is a state of mind. It’s entirely within your control. Just like you can make a decision to do something useful with your time, you can decide that you are happy.

    “But nothing in my life makes me happy.” There you go again! You’re trapped in the old way of thinking. It’s easy to blame your job, spouse, family, or even the world for your unhappiness.

    I meet people all the time who say that the world is an evil place. Yes, bad things happen to people. And yes, some people are evil. I’m not going to pretend those things do not happen. But is that within your control? No. So get over yourself and don’t let other things make you miserable. It’s time to stop being a cynic.

    Remember: You don’t need a reason to be happy. That’s the whole idea in one sentence. But saying it is very different from truly living it. All you need to do is be happy—and you are.