There was no easy way to do it—it was one of the toughest things I had to do—but as I unfollowed one person at a time, I literally felt my heart growing more and more at peace…
I always assumed I was someone who stood up for herself and never tolerated less than she deserved; until I turned 28 and realised how extremely passive I had been for most of my adult life. Little did I know that the reason for my unhappiness, low self-esteem and little self-worth, was because of what I tolerated and accepted as “okay” from the people in my life at the time.
For years I justified people’s actions toward me—their criticism, body shaming, dream killing, gossiping, back stabbing, empty promises and disappointments—all to the expense of my peace and happiness. It brought me to a point where, whether I liked it or not, I had to weed out the energy sucking people from my life. Sadly, these people were close friends and relatives.
What did I do? Without any notice or explanation, I unfollowed every one of those persons in real life. How? I changed my number and deleted them from every single contact and friend list possible. Sounds harsh don’t it? But guess what? No one came looking for me after, so I guess I did the right thing.
If you knew how much of a pushover I was two years ago, you’d know that doing something so cold and drastic took a lot of courage and willpower out of me. It was kind of like getting waxed for the first time—it hurt like hell, but afterwards it felt A-M-A-Z-I-N-G!!!
To this day I have no regrets. My life has blossomed and I have complete inner peace. I have honest, supportive people around me who encourage me to be my best.
I cannot stress enough how instrumental the people in our lives are to the way we feel about ourselves and the way our lives turn out. I urge you to choose wisely those whom you allow into your life. If you have negative, cynical people surrounding you, you’re only going to end up feeling discouraged, depleted and down all the time. Sometimes these negative people are close family members who we can’t cut off; learn to love and respect them from a distance and understand that you cannot be around them on a daily basis.
Surround yourself with people who are uplifting, encouraging, supportive and honest; people with big goals and dreams; people who have plans to do something significant with their life—they are the ones who will inspire and motivate you to live the life you deserve.
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